The Guilt of Being Happy

You’re having a perfect morning. Coffee tastes right. Sun hits your face just so. Then you remember your friend going through a divorce, or you see a headline about some distant tragedy. The happiness curdles. Why does this happen? Why does someone else’s pain make our pleasure feel wrong? I think it’s because we confuse two different things: caring about suffering and thinking our happiness somehow causes it. The first makes sense....

May 7, 2026 · 1 min · The Pleasure Principle