Epicurus

Most people think hedonism means being reckless. Partying. Excess. It doesn’t. Epicurus — the original hedonist — lived on bread, water, and conversation with friends. That was his idea of the good life. He thought most pleasures weren’t worth chasing. They create anxiety. You want the fancy meal, then you need the money for the fancy meal, then you need the job for the money, then you’re stressed about the job....

I used to think pleasure and happiness were the same thing. More pleasure equals more happiness. Simple math. Then I noticed something odd. Some of my most pleasurable experiences left me feeling empty afterward. A great meal, an exciting night out, even good sex — the pleasure was real, but it didn’t stick around. Sometimes I felt worse the next day. Meanwhile, some of my happiest periods involved very little intense pleasure....